I'm new... Question for the girls :)

[RylieLove]

I'm gonna rewrite this a lil...

Ok, well at this point in my life it looks like I'm going down the path of transition...I need to embrace this part of me and well I'm a little confused about this whole hormone thing.

I suppose there is a difference if someone wants to retain their ability to use their little friend. What I want to know is if many people transition without hormones? I'm a bit of a commitmentphobe... :)

jeez, I can't figure out how to express how I feel with these darn words, I hope you guys get the gist.

[seanchai]

I just don't get it unless you really don't like you lil buddy down there cause everything points to sterility, lose of erections, no more ejaculate, ect... Maybe it's just me but I can't imagine loosing any of those aspects.

I'm going to say this from the point of view of someone who has met and talked with 100's of transsexuals and with respect, ... you need to go for some counselling to see if you really are a transsexual or maybe your path leads elsewhere.

[Fairymouse]

Hello and welcome to the fourm!

I just don't get it unless you really don't like you lil buddy down there cause everything points to sterility, lose of erections, no more ejaculate, ect... Maybe it's just me but I can't imagine loosing any of those aspects.I can only speak for myself, I have lost nothing of this under female hormones (ok, I had never taken things like Spirolactone or Androcur, only Estrogene & Progesterone and if I´m fertile I don´t know).

I love the idea of developing like a girl but that boat sailed years ago.I hadn´t really like that idea, I had to decide between starting with hormones or making suicide...

Maybe I'm missing something? Softer skin?? A little breast growth?? Your gonna prob end up with implants anyways right?What is YOUR (main)problem? What do YOU need for YOU? What do YOU want for YOU? You should ask yourself this questions very carefully...

Laser hair and FFS seen much more appealing to me. Is it only appealing for you? Or is it existential for you to have a real female face, because of hating the maskulin part of your face every day, when you are allone in front of the mirror in your bathroom for example? How much do you suffer under not having a female face, and why?

Same as above --> You should ask yourself this questions very carefully...

I won´t hold you back from going your way, but it should be really your own way, and changing your body should only be done because of a desire deep in you for a female body which has it´s origin in a female genderidentity in your brain.

Please think about it and don´t hesitate for asking more, if you need more advice...

Regards

Fairymouse

[RylieLove]

Thanks for the response! I probably used some incorrect verbage in the way I expressed myself...

I don't hate my male self (well sometimes)... I don't think I should need to hate him just to express feminity.

Mainly I am asking because I see girls who I relate to with their stories and most of them start HRT... I guess it just scares me to think about it. Would I be making a mistake, will I regret it, blah blah blah... But I suppose those questions and discussions should be under pofessional care.

I'm sure I have more to say but I'm at work and it's tough to scroll up and down on my phone. :)

[Fairymouse]

I don't hate my male self (well sometimes)...I had meant the maskulinized parts of your body...

I don't think I should need to hate him just to express feminity.
Have you ever felt like a boy/man in your live? I´m never...

Mainly I am asking because I see girls who I relate to with their stories and most of them start HRT...Sorry, but that says nothing about you...

But I suppose those questions and discussions should be under pofessional care.A professional may be able to say you, if you are "transsexual" in his/her eyes or not, but not really more...

But there is sadly more to know:

Is your main problem GID (Genderidentity Disorder) because you feel mainly uncomfortable with being you because of the restrictions of the society, then you may want mainly change your gender role, but not really your body... And... what´s most important, it´s absolut impossible to change somebodys genderidentity, because, nobody can change somebodys brain!

Is your main problem cerebral Intersexuality or even the so called Brainsex/Body Discrepancy Syndrome, then you need mainly a female body because of the female genderidentity of your brain, change of gender role may be needed too, but it´s more a secondary problem...

Most professionals know only the GID, cerebral Intersexexuality doesn´t official exist in the International Classification of Diseases... Even when some professionals feel, that there is more than only GID or see the differences until there work...

And a big problem too is, most professionals can´t comprehend the feelings and the pain of a person who´s suffering under cerebral Intersexexuality because they are not concerned by it...

This is sadly my personal expericence...

[RylieLove]

It's too darn confusing...

I like how your taking my words apart cause it helps me think deeper about what I'm saying and why...

I've always had issues with "me" and the classic want/need to be a girl. In fact those are the first memories.

I don't wanna start writing my life story here... All I want is to accept this part of me which seems so contradictory of who I present as male (but I'm sure if I came out some people wouldn't be surprised).

I'm glad your taking time out to talk with me fairymouse... I appreciate it!

[RylieLove]

Not necessarily accept, but embrace. I find it hard to find the right words...

[Fairymouse]

I suppose there is a difference if someone wants to retain their ability to use their little friend.Yeah, hey, there is no prohibition for a tgirl to have fun with herself, equal on which way... ;-)

--> Your sexual orientation and your sexual preferences have nothing to do with your genderidentity!

That are two different things!

SRS should be only undergone, if there is a real physical desire for a female genital... A woman is not less a woman, only because of her penis...! Even when society says something other... Science know it much better long ago...

What I want to know is if many people transition without hormones? I don´t know. I think that will be very difficult, mainly if masculinization have begun...

--> I can only speak for myself, I have lost nothing of this under female hormones (ok, I had never taken things like Spirolactone or Androcur, only Estrogene & Progesterone and if I´m fertile I don´t know).

I think, for a girl/woman it´s no problem, to regulate their testosterone down by using female hormones like estrogene & progesterone (testosterone blockers like Androcur or others may have to much negative side effects).

I've always had issues with "me" and the classic want/need to be a girl. In fact those are the first memories.At which age?

All I want is to accept this part of me which seems so contradictory of who I present as male (but I'm sure if I came out some people wouldn't be surprised). Is it only a part of you, or is it really you?

--> Have you ever in your live felt as a boy or man?

[RylieLove]

I tried to send a pm... But I don't see it in my sent messages folder. Lemme know if you got it or not.

[Fairymouse]

I had got it, you have reply.

You can check that box Save a copy of sent messages in my Sent Items folder by default under [/URL]My Control Panel
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[Wondergirl]

its a tough question, but at one point or another, you either just make a leap or you dont follow your heart and go with the flow