What do you pinay girls think about this?

[El_hefe]

I've been to the PI 2X & am probably going to return at least a few more times in the near future to check out the plausibility of retiring there, since half of my US retirement funds have recently disappeared. If I was smart, something no one has ever accused me of, I would do it in 5-8 years from now, but I could see a realistic scenario of 2-3 years from now being very possible.

I starting chatting with a few of the pinay tgirls from different places to feel out the lay of the land & I'm finding a real majority of them in the 20-24 yo range, which I feel is really too young for any solid connection. (One of the western guys living there said that a lot of them, if they pass 30 without having a real ltr, simply cut their hair & ditch the girl clothes & become the "older" gay guy in the barangay.... true?) Also I'm not looking for an escort type of experience but something legitimate.

Anyway the inevitable happened, I seemed to make a good connection with one girl that I chat with regularly now. She hasn't asked for anything (& I made it clear I would never send $ to anyone for any reason.) She has a college degree & a call center job & her family seem to be middle class.

But she is 23 yo, ie., 34 years younger than me. I know. I was really looking for someone in their 30's to be honest.... I wouldn't have chosen this age, & I'm doubtful in western terms that it could work.... but a few people on the ground there, filipino & western say it may not really be an issue there.

Any thoughts from those of you over there, or from there?

PS. BTW please forgive me if this is the wrong forum for this, but I was looking for a PI perspective on this.

[brian56]

Ah, if you trully wish a relationship, you will need to spend time together, and as you are thinking of living there, it is best thast you do this there. I also suggest that at all times you think of her as her, she, a woman, and do treat her as such! As to the money aspect, your decision, but if you do develop a good relationship, exactly what are you concerned about, as at point you should have full trust in her! I strongly suggest that when you meet her, if you wish to go further, you also meet family, and you will need a crash course in cultural thinking!

[Juliana_Dominguez]

why is age an issue here? i have tons of girlfriends that dates and is married to older men, i for one is married to a man that is older than me, (10 years) and we dont have a problem with age at all. i thought at first we are gunna have that generation gap, but clearly we don't. age is nothing but a number.

[brian56]

age should never be an issue, as love is what and how two people believe in, trust, accept and think of each other!

[El_hefe]

While age shouldn't be an issue for the real thing, I wonder if people at different developmental stages in their lives would be able to relate well?

Maybe with the giant cultural differences & big change in lifestyle the transplant overlooks a lot that we expect in a ltr here at home? In other words we have less expectations & more patience & acceptence due to our new living conditions in a different place.

Do you think I should be pursuing the local ladyboys 19-25 instead of assuming that they still have too much to learn?
Someone told me that the pinays mature quicker than us Yanks.

[brian56]

why are you so worried about the age difference, and now you raise developmental issues, hell maybe you need to rethink what you trully want in your life. If this be american thinking, I am pleased I am not one. Dude love is that which is between two people, it is a combination of the interaction between tthe two, and how you think of and relate to each other, plus of course many other aspects!
You, you worry about finances, age, developmental difference,and maturity, and if these are always in your mind you will never cross the threshold to love. Love requires total acceptance, trust, belief and respect in ones partner, without any of those you have nothing!
In my case, in the 8 months of our relationship, we have built up a total trust in each other, and as a consequence of that, we are attempting to make a business, as in the future we will need an income! I don't think of me, I always think of us! We have done this as we love each other, and have made decisions as to the future! A relationship is a partnership, and it includes sharing with each other, not sitting back and ignoring the needs of the person you love. I just can not do that.
Further advise I would give you, is that if you decide you want a relationship, make sure you think of her, and treat her like a woman, and respect her as such! Above all it needs your complete acceptance of her as she is and what she believes she is!