Moving to CEBU, what can I expect?

[exterminator]

I am a 24 year old guy who is living in Sweden right now, and I'm moving to Cebu in a couple of months. I have never dated or been with a transgender before, but I am very curious I must say.

How do I go on about meeting a nice girl, how do I treat her etc?

[sass]

Well, just treat us just like how you treat other people: with respect. There's really no "how" to treat people, so what I'm going to say here are mere speculations - we don't really know what we're going to do until we are already in the situation itself. Spontaneity = authenticity. Nonetheless, since giving advice is a vice I sometimes indulge in - including this time, here's a handful of tips. Take them at your own risk. :-)

1. Being considerate, understanding, and honesty are handy tools for having a lovely experience with any individual. Pretentiousness is very seductive - we pull it off every now and then, don't we? - BUT very very tiring.

2. Be cautious in tickling someone's vanity bone. The person may get addicted to it and, just like any addiction, the person may crave for it again and again and again and again until you lose your peace.

3. Be a good kisser. Well, for me, that's the best part of intimacy. You begin sex with it and ALWAYS end it with it.

4. Sense of humor and sense of gratitude are not to be hoarded. Laughter and gratefulness make moments alive and kicking!

5. Don't we all love a deep, long, warm, and presence-filled hug?

6. A "how are you" question is good for the first time or when it has been a long time since you've met the person. Otherwise it becomes an irritant.

I don't know Cebu City much as I live in Metro Manila. I've been there once. I don't know where you can exactly meet a nice girl there. Perhaps try the mall or the ads? Well, it boils down to what do you mean by "nice". Nice in bed? Nice as in good looking? Nice as in "the girl who let the boy in you jump with joy"? Nice as in "this girl is the one"?

If it's just nice in bed, perhaps it's better to just get a sex worker. They are paid to do it; they should be expected to perform it with aplomb and skill that should be way above the lay people.

If it's just nice as in good looking, there are lots of good looking tgirls in Cebu City. You can try watching transgender beauty pageants or whatever.

If it's nice as in "the girl who let the boy in you jump with joy", hmmmm...quite difficult, this is a trial and error thing. You get to kiss so much sleeping beauty before you get the real one to wake up with you honey.

If nice as in "this girl is the one", hmmm...as difficult as the above. There's no how in this.

If nice as in all of the definition of nice that I've given, dear, dear, dear, either they are already taken or laying like needles in a haystack.

Just have fun sweetie. And just love unboundedly, have fun, and you'll find her when it is time - but don't count on it. :-)

Warmly,
sass

[cebulover]

I am also heading to cebu soon...been there many times. Now have fell for the curiosity thing after a very brief encounter with a lovely TS on last visit....bumped into nher in a mall...couldn't hanf around as on the run. However, was definately taken with her.
So, have done some research at many sites....my major concern is this...and please don't be offended or get on high horses.....those that I have communicated with by email or messenger seem to have only one thing on their mind....how much money can I pay?Even had requests for money already without even meeting....needless to say those have been deleted from my possible meet book.
Also, heard stories of being robbed ....either pick pocketed, from the hotel room, etc.......

it does worry me and I am now thinking if the risk factor will destroy possible relationships and whether to bother or not.

hope this makes sense...and again, no offence intended.

[brian56]

not quite too sure here whether you too dudes want an affair with a TG or TS, or you are simply going there to use and abuse? To me, and yes I am a male, even TG/TS girls deserve a chance for love! Non should be treated as some dudes play toy. Me, I am considering a move to Mindanao, and yes this because I do love a TS, and to me she is the most beautifull woman in my life. To me she is a woman, and as such I treat her like such, and she deserves it. To me she is more feminine than most of the genetic woman I know, and I can say the same in regards her TS friends! Unfortunately many dudes steriotype TG/TS girls because of the internet porn sites, but only a small number are actively involved in those. Far better to have life with love than a life without! and as for the sex business, just think, that if us men could all agree to boycott that, the industry would soon die!

[El_hefe]

Hey what part of Mindanao & have you been there yet? Curious because I am chatting with some tg girls from there & am considering a move to the PI, Cebu or Mindanao in the future.

[brian56]

Ah, my friend, one hopes that if you do develop a relationship with one that you are able to treat her as she deserves, I know many do not! I do not know you, and I do hope that you are not a person whom is there just for your personal thrills in life. The girls I know are wonderfull people and yes, I do have many friends in both places, and all are totally deserving of being able to enjoy life and to seek love in their life. If you wish, we could get to know each other, drop me a message with contact details and we could do this, as yes I am interested in knowing other guys, who like myself have a relationship with a ts. So where abouts are your friends?

[angelbymistake81]

ud expect me in Cebu :P uhmmm i guess im too late lol :D

[babaformula]

i like to say thank to " sass " ....

[BeardedOne]

What Sass said.

OMG, did I just say "me too"/"cosign"? :)

Seriously, the gurl gave you the best advice, no matter what/who you're looking for. Have a grand time.

[exterminator]

already back home, forgot I even posted here.
I had my share of fun! See yall next time pump or mango square(they dont let TS into vudu or loft/penthouse that much hehe)

[angelbymistake81]

i think i know why they dont exterminator, though i never had such problem going to those places :P