Long distance relationships

[tglover]

Hypothetical question...

You meet a girl online who lives over seas. You chat with her, and find that you have somethings in common. So you continue to chat some more. Then you start to think to yourself "Wow this is a really great girl". So of course you keep chatting more. Then you find that she has a boyfriend, but it is a long distance relationship. What would you do? If of course you are on the opposite end (the girl) what would you want the guy to do - if anything? I have recently found myself chatting with a very (VERY) beautiful girl. She has a wonderful outlook on life, is intelligent, funny, and (did I mention gorgeous) a super personality etc....She has me thinking of visiting her country, and maybe one day hopefully having a caring meaningful relatioinship. So what would you do, or what would you want the guy to do if you were the girl?

[JeanClaude]

Don't live on illusions.
Believe me, long distance relationships do not work.
If you don't meet her, one day, this will end.
It's as simple as it is.
I have learnt the hard way...

[ami7mina]

I've been in that situation... almost exactly.. the good thing is we still are friends.

[ottorocket]

LDR's...i've tried that before...so hard to keep close when your seperated so far r :(

[Bad123456]

im also starting to doubt on success of them ;(

[brian56]

If you trully believe you are in love, you can make them work, and yes honesty and trust are important, as is the belief in each other! It is equally import that at some early time, maybe 2 - 4 months into such a relationship you physically meet and be together for at least a period of days! This is the trial for compatability and to find out whether you are comfortable with each other. Having been there, and still in one, 9 months later, they can work, there are ups and downs, but if the love is there they will succeed! It is all up to the two people whether they make it or not. But, don't not do, just because you doubt the success of these! You can fall in love with the person next door, but that does not mean it will be successfull!

[phoejay]

if you really love someone... distance doesnt matter...

[sweetnicole]

im having one now. and im loving every moment. you just have to learn to adjust. trust and understanding is key.

[phoejay]

amen to that nicole!

im having one now. and im loving every moment. you just have to learn to adjust. trust and understanding is key.

[sweetnicole]

hahaha. see you soon phoejay.

[LA_Artist]

My advice on this is to really be careful with your feelings. Visiting a girl is fun and definitely does not strain the relationship, until that distance dissapears permanently. At that point, it may show that it is more convenient for that significant other to be seperated from you and not in direct contact on a daily basis. You may think you have a good relationship thats balanced when apart, and then your life is consumed by the other when they are permanently closer. This may or may not be a good thing. All in all it depends. I say take it slow. And remember, this applied to both people in the relationship. Either person might feel the way I have described.

:-)

[phoejay]

My advice on this is to really be careful with your feelings. Visiting a girl is fun and definitely does not strain the relationship, until that distance dissapears permanently. At that point, it may show that it is more convenient for that significant other to be seperated from you and not in direct contact on a daily basis. You may think you have a good relationship thats balanced when apart, and then your life is consumed by the other when they are permanently closer. This may or may not be a good thing. All in all it depends. I say take it slow. And remember, this applied to both people in the relationship. Either person might feel the way I have described.

:-)

i concur! taking it slow is the best way to know the person before you invest any romantic or emotional feelings.

[LA_Artist]

Ive learned the hard way with "K", who is sorta the reason I moved to CA. Love is naive, and you have to learn to keep low expectations going into a relationship.

[Juliana_Dominguez]

Ive learned the hard way with "K", who is sorta the reason I moved to CA. Love is naive, and you have to learn to keep low expectations going into a relationship.

i think i know who "K" is? lol

[LA_Artist]

SHHHHH! lol

[LA_Artist]

After Jenny, I met Angela and have been with her ever since. Ill post new pics of me and her soon.

[Juliana_Dominguez]

okay go!

[aiyah]

Hypothetical question...

You meet a girl online who lives over seas. You chat with her, and find that you have somethings in common. So you continue to chat some more. Then you start to think to yourself "Wow this is a really great girl". So of course you keep chatting more. Then you find that she has a boyfriend, but it is a long distance relationship. What would you do? If of course you are on the opposite end (the girl) what would you want the guy to do - if anything? I have recently found myself chatting with a very (VERY) beautiful girl. She has a wonderful outlook on life, is intelligent, funny, and (did I mention gorgeous) a super personality etc....She has me thinking of visiting her country, and maybe one day hopefully having a caring meaningful relatioinship. So what would you do, or what would you want the guy to do if you were the girl?



well i think visiting her is a good a idea in a way u can get to know her well.
but u should be aware and ready whtever waiting for u by visiting her and and always expect the un-expected

[Jaxxy]

I wonder how this turned out...

[aiyah]

hello jaxxxy

[Jaxxy]

Hi aiyah, how are you?

[babaformula]

i am also in the same condition now ! and i am hop-full about it and trust her .....

Raise ur hands and say Ammin best of luck (for me ) please !

[Kattmall]

I know ... were most of the way through the season already but Ill still ask .... what long distance events do you have planned this summer?

[autheds09]

As many of you may know, some of us here on Aroms are in long distance relationships. Sinful and I, Cat and DJ. There are probably more of you in this situation, cept your significant other doesnt visit the site.So, who all is or has been in a long distance relationship? Why or why didnt it work out?

[chinee_ladyboy]

Hi everyone Im new to this forum...

well... I have a long distance relationship also... but still even if we are on different time zone we manage to budget our time.

the key is "trust" , "patience" , and the most important thing "love"

soon we will be together ;)

[Qualo]

I am very sceptical about long distance relationships. I think they generally do not work because its hard to stay monogamous to someone 10,000 miles away that you haven't seen for months.
I have also noticed that my feelings apart were different to the feelings when together, basically I realised I wasn't so in love after all when we were together again in person.
Its always nice to hear success stories though, so good luck to those in this situation.

[ottorocket]

Hard to do a LDR...i need close physical contact with my lover and just being so far away is too darn difficult...lack of communication etc being able to go out all the time...doesn't work for me. Wish it did, there's some great ladies here abroad

[Trogdor]

To me, it's my only option. No Tgirls around my area, and as I said many times, I'm through with Ggirls. I've got my sights on someone that used to be on this forum, and once I get the renovations to the house her, I'm inviting her over here for a bit. Hope this one goes well.

[ErronSera]

Hey just for the people who have had successful long distance relationships.

What did you do to keep it working?

What didnt work so much?