Shemales for relationships

[shemalevicki]

Well I know allot of girls hate the name shemale. Well I am one of those people that do not care. I here guys all the time talking about how they don't like how most girls are escorts and prostitutes, but when it all comes down to it, the most attractive girls usually are in the adult industry. It takes allot of money to look good. Its very hard for transexuals to hold nice jobs, just as the %100 women do. I am one girl that wants a relatinship one day. Most men always judge me because of that. They think just because I am 8 to 10 inches I am mostly bottom also.

I have dominated slaves and slammed guys in their behinds, made my money and left them laying there. That was the old me. I am still in the adult industry, and working on my album. I want to be successful at what ever I do. I want to be picky on the man I choose.

I am not the only girl that wants a relationship. The only thing is, most the girls that want relationships are hard to find, because they pose as women 24/7 and do not get open on the net. I am one of the few girls that go both ways. I live in both worlds. I do not tell people I work with ( at least not all of them, my situation.)

I just want men to know that most girls that are for relationships, that is 80% of those are bottoms and will not even let you touch their cocks. I know when I first was out and meet guys that like transexual, I was shocked they wanted to go down. I am like, I became a woman so men to suck my cock. I felt like I was still just basic gay.

I don't know, express your opinion.
:)

[edgeoflife]

Hi welcome to the forums. I read your profile, I am impressed at how you come off as wanting something in life. I highly respect that.

What exactly are you asking here?

[lar9149]

Well, this is the hardest issue to solve. Because you are right, a lot of tgirls that look good are in the adult industry. Why? Because it brings in a lot of money that allows them to get the surgeries to make them look feminine and beautiful. But the problem lies that a lot of men want passable beautiful tgirls, perhaps to hide the fact that they are with a woman that used to be a man, yet do not want a tgirl that escorts and/or in the pornography industry. So what do you do? Takes money to look good. Adult industry provides the money, but men want tgirls that look good and aren't in the adult industry.

Now the answer could lie in that tgirls should rely more on college and education so wouldn't have to rely on the adult industry. But two problems: some tgirls didn't get a good education while growing up because perhaps they were boys and wonder about their feminine desires and some people perhaps make fun of them because of their feminine behavior making it hard to learn. Second, even with an education, they still would earn less than in the adult industry (even a six figure doctor's income may be less because those in the adult industry aren't taxed).

This is perhaps why there are so many complaints about tgirls having relationships with men and vice versa. It really takes an open minded guy to be in a relationship with someone in the adult industry, whether with a gg or tgirl. So you have to find a man like that, tough to do, at least someone who will stick by you in the long run. So a man has to be able to accept that she is in the adult industry, also deal with the fact that he has dating a tgirl and possibly be labeled as a "fag", and there maybe some family issues like he may not be able to have kids in the future unless he is willing to adopt. See a gg that works in the adult industry doesn't have to deal with the latter two problems, but a tgirl does.

So if a tgirl in the adult industry wants to have a relationship, she has to find a man that has to be able to accept all the problems that can come with it. And as you read through the forums, the truth of the matter is that most appear not to be open with that. I mean it is diffficult because even if a man finds a tgirl, he has to be able to also tell his family and friends that she works in the adult industry. A lot to swallow.

[MsDazzler]

That is a Catch-22 situation, Lars. That is why I m leery of guys who wants their grrls to be passable, fulltime, and yet want to suck their cocks or get fucked by them. Its like they only care about their own needs and dont care about what it s like for Tgirls. That is why I am increasingly attracted to bi guys because they will love and want me in either boi or girl mode.

[lar9149]

That is a Catch-22 situation, Lars. That is why I m leery of guys who wants their grrls to be passable, fulltime, and yet want to suck their cocks or get fucked by them. Its like they only care about their own needs and dont care about what it s like for Tgirls. That is why I am increasingly attracted to bi guys because they will love and want me in either boi or girl mode.

Yea I have to admit MsDazzler, it is a bit of a contradiction like saying
"be the must ladylike you can be than fuck me like a man." Actually I think a lot of bi guys would be open to tgirls even ones that haven't been curious before, don't know if that is true through.

[edgeoflife]

you both bring up interesting points. i know from experience about telling my family and loved ones that i was dating a tgirl. they still to this day dont accept it, but its not for them to decide.

i am looking to meet that right girl.

[Gia Darling]

as some of you guys know i been around longer than dust
and i think that at times it can be hard to find a guy in general GG TS ect
as far as the adult industry to me it has not affected my personal life
maybe because the people i been with have seen how much of a business it is and i treat it as such
the way i see it was that i had very limited options and i took the one that would work out well for me in the end and made the best of it i owe who iam and my financial freedom to the business so maybe iam vious but
i have always stayed focused on what i wanted
all tho i have to live with an image that i created to make a living for myself
the people that are close to me know how iam as a person and maybe that's why relationships have never been an issue
like any other relationship there might be problems but they have nothing to do with being a ts or being in the adult industry
remmeber we can sit around and moap about how bad it is or we can make the best of what we have and move on!

[NoOne]

well put Gia

[lar9149]

i have always stayed focused on what i wanted
all tho i have to live with an image that i created to make a living for myself
the people that are close to me know how iam as a person and maybe that's why relationships have never been an issue
like any other relationship there might be problems but they have nothing to do with being a ts or being in the adult industry
remmeber we can sit around and moap about how bad it is or we can make the best of what we have and move on!

Yea gia has definitely been around and as I stated before, is a good example for the community. I think all and all if you stay strong and help people around you understand yourself, then a tgirl in the adult industry can live just like any other girl.

The truth of the matter guys would accept you no matter your career if they really like inside as much as outside. But when tgirls start to have these jealous and struck up attitudes guys may like whats on the outside, but not the inside and figure why they should go through the trouble of being with someone in the adult industry.

[bolton113]

personaly, I date transexuals, because they have cocks! Whatever that means, I am fine with it. I actually haven't come across many girls who didn't want to be touched? Different strokes for different folks maybe?
As for going down on a t-girl? I do! lol but was is so different about that, than going down on a gg? (i like that too!) It's just an act of love or sex or lust, whatever the case may be.
Just my opinion.
Steve

[wowstick]

personaly, I date transexuals, because they have cocks! Whatever that means, I am fine with it. I actually haven't come across many girls who didn't want to be touched? Different strokes for different folks maybe?
As for going down on a t-girl? I do! lol but was is so different about that, than going down on a gg? (i like that too!) It's just an act of love or sex or lust, whatever the case may be.
Just my opinion.
Steve

I always like to ask a Tgurl what she likes sexually. My aim is to please, whether it be a Tgurl or GG. If a Tgurl wants to be treated like a woman - and I believe that most DO - then damn it - treat her like a damn woman!