About Us and the rejection

[jennfalls]

Not all the transgender people is widely accepted by their family and friends, still there are people with narrow minds that cant understand that being transsexual is something that we cant avoid, is in our blood, our minds, and our DNA. I feel sorry for those parents that say "I will kill my son if I found him to be gay" or the proud mother that say that she can forgive her son as long as he remain away from drugs or alcohol, but the truth is that as soon as they come out and start to grow her hair long or bind their breasts, they get worry about what the neighbors will say or their friends, and they sent their kids away in a path that made them feel very bad about themselves and worthless, but they are only following a code that is imprinted on their cells, they are being honest with themselves, some people I know took them 30 years to be who they really are and all because of the people around, we need more education for the future, no one will ever invent a cure for transpeople because we are not sick, we are magnificent people awaiting the chance to live our beautiful lives.

[Ecstatic]

Well said, jennfalls. As a bisexual male, I've only brushed up against a little of the rejection that the transgendered so often encounter, but enough to empathize. To many people, bi means gay and gay is sinful, and these people see transgender as gay. Such a narrow little world view, but like you say, it's imprinted, if not in their cells, in their memories and behavior. But more people are openminded than we might think; the more people I've told that I have transsexual friends, the more amazed I am at how accepting they are. Confused, yes, but also accepting. Much more so than a couple of decades ago.

[JohnnyPaycheck]

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Nice post Jenn, our society can be very unaccepting. There are always going to be people that spread intolerance and hate of others different than what they consider the "norm". In the west, we live in a culture that is sort of based on the judeo-christian belief and have been endoctrined into a certain way of thinking so people react to you, and guys like us negatively because of conditioning to think a certain way. It hurts, i know, the rejection, fear, hate, what have you, but just remember there are always going to be guys like me, and ecstatic, and others on here, everywhere in fact, that understand that girls like you are the greatest gift to man. hahahha, i can't believe i could type something so cheesey and sappy,

[Harajuku Tgirl]

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[Ecstatic]

Well said, Harajuku. Reminds me of one of Dana International's songs:

If you don't love me the way I am,
you don't love me at all at all
If you don't love me the way I am
somebody will, somebody will.

[Arnmake20]

most people are very close minded.. and even more say it is ok for someone to be gay or bi or whatever.. but if there own child says they are they will totally change their minds on the idea... saying its ok as long as my own family is straight... a path of life can only be taken by the person that is living that life.. if you force someone it is like being in prison, and if you reject someone it is like a slap in the face.... i just wish more people would understand everyone has a life that is totally independent from their own

[SmurfetteHasASecret]

Be yourself, eventually there are those who will accept you as you are. Society has preprogrammed people to be suspicious of anything not 'normal'. But they ned to understand just because they do not see it daily, does not make ssomething'abnormal'. The more Transexuals that come to the mainstream, the more society will have a chance for exposure. The flip side, women are jealous of TSs because they can be more beautiful than themselves. Men are curious but wont admit it out loud. They secretly work their way to meeting TSs when they feel they can get away with it. Personally, I`d like to see the planet transgendered.

[edgeoflife]

I agree.

In the past I was critized and made fun of by my own immediate family becuse of my wanting to be with a transsexual. I do not care if my family accepts it or not. It is my life, my choice, my desire.. no one elses.