MsDazzler
03-07-2007, 06:23 PM
Okay, guys, I just got hired at Men's Health as a feature writer for a special article on dating T-girls. :D
MsDazzler, at your disposal, sharing some tips that will ensure you maximize your experiences to the most satifiscation with a Tgirl, regardless of whether you are lookking to date or just hook up.
Complied from my own experiences, men's comments, other Tgirls' expeirences/comments, postings from this forum, and other reading materials, here I present them:
TIP #1: DON'T ASSUME ANYTHING ABOUT THIS SPECIFIC TGIRL YOU ARE MEETING OR DATING BASED ON YOUR PREVIOUS TGIRL, HEARSAY, OR PORNO
This might sound trite or rather obvious, but you'd be surprised at how many guys start the meeting or encounter with preset expectations/assumptions.
EXAMPLE: The most common assumption guys have with me is that since I look so passable and feminine, I must be on hormones, therefore the breasts they see on me must be real underneath the bra or the shirt. WRONG! This usually leads to a big disappointment for them when they tear my top off and get disappointed when my boobs don't fall out like expected.
EXAMPLE: Online, guys keep saying stuff over and over again like "I heard that trannies or tgirls (insert phrase here)" or "Is it true that TS (insert phrase here)" to me. Hearsay is not good evidence for you to base assumptions on.
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TIP #2: All Tgirls don't have pussies, therefore they must love anal sex because that s the only hole to go with, right? WRONG! My best Tgrrlfriend has complained about this because she hates anal sex and prefers oral sex, only, and frankly, this has led to friction and clashing with guys who assume that all tgirls must love getting fucked in the ass becuz they dont have pussies. So don't expect all Tgirls to like having anal sex.
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TIP #3: DON'T HOLD UP US ON A PEDESTAL, DON'T COMPARE US TO FAMOUS TRANNY STARS, OR TO GENETIC GIRLS.
Because you will always get disappointed. Tranny stars are paid to look glamorous, get plastic surgery, and be able to afford nice jugs. So don't go meeting a T-girl, expecting her to be like Gia Darling or Allanah Starr. There is only one Gia Darling, just like only one Allanah Starr, and that Tgirl you are meeting is the only one in the world. if you just meet a tgirl expecting a normal girl, you won't be as disappointed. Also don't assume she got the endurance of a tranny porn star. lol
This really bugs me, but it annoys me when guys compare me to genetic girls. Even though Tgirls may be eptiomes of the ideal woman or they want to be treated as women, not all of them are perfect. You cannot just beat years and years of male conditioning and indoctrination, and even bury it 100%. Flashes of "male" behavior or habits will surface, or some "male" characteristics may even not be eradicated.
EXAMPLE: I shower with a guy. Unwittingly I wrap the towel around my hips rather than my chest. He rags on me for not behaving like a woman in this case.
EXAMPLE #2: My tgrrlfriends, drunk, pee up standing in the alleys, just like guys. When you are drunk, you fall back on your old habits, and when you are drunk, you do things that require least thinking and effort, which standing up is. lol
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TIP #4: CONTINUING THE TIP FROM ABOVE, ALSO DON'T COMPARE THE TGIRL IN QUESTION'S BODY TO A GENETIC WOMAN. YOU WILL NOT BE HAPPY IN THE END, AND IT S POINTLESS AND WILL JUST DEAL A BLOW TO HER EGO.
EXAMPLE: When I was coming out of the bathroom all sexy in stockings, the guy on the couch commented, "You kinda have big shoulders." :shock: Totally inappropriate comment at a totally wrong moment.
you just have to face it, Tgirls were born in male bodies, with male characteristics. The sooner you accept that your dream Tgirl won't have fertile, hourglass hops, or may be very tall, the happier you ll be off.
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TIP #5: WATCH THE WAY THE TGIRL TOUCHES HER HAIR TO ASCERTAIN WHETHER IT IS A WIG OR NOT. (DON'T ASK)
You ll know whether to be careful when touching her hair during kissing or sex, so if it s a wig, you know not to knock her around or it may fall off, embarrassing her, or spoiling your perception of her. Because hair plays a huge role in feminizing the appearance, your perception may be quite ruined if the girl in question has shaved head. LOL
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TIP #6: NEVER SAY "I WISH YOU WERE A REAL GIRL" or "ONLY IF YOU WERE A GIRL..." (especially after sex!)
This is akin to saying to a girl, "I wish you were like Angelina Jolie" or a girl telling you, "I wish you were like Brad Pitt" after sex.
Those comments serve to do nothing but really belittle the person. There s no purpose on making those remarks to the Tgirl you r seeing or just fucked. You are playing by law and society's definition of a "girl", she is playing by her heart and mind's laws, which in her eyes she is a real girl.
The less you obsess on the fact that law (perhaps biology, too) deems her not to be a real girl, the happier and more satisifed you will be.
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TIP #7: JUST LIKE WOMEN, TGIRLS WILL EVENTUALLY WANT TO MEET YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY, if the relationship is progressing.
Of course it s understandable if you are nervous and don't want your close social circles finding out. We understand this totally. If you are not willin to do that, then you have to be willing to hang out with OUR FRIENDS.
What does this mean? This mean in exchange for maintaining your secrecy with your social circles (and we sacrifice the opporunity to bond with your friends just like genetic girls), YOU ACCEPT our friends since they will know about us and won't be discriminating. Therefore, since many Tgirls have gay friends and they run around in gay circles/bars/clubs, it is either hanging out with your straight friends and them finding out OR hanging out with our gay friends and being nonjudgmental and not whining about it and being uncomfortable.
You may think this is trite, but it is so true. Many guys have told me "but I dont like gay people", or "I am not gay, I am not going to hang out in gay bars". Well, sorry, honey, but my best friend is gay, and he has always been there for me, while guys come and go. I am not going to sacrifice my best friend to spend all of my time ALONE with the guy of the moment if he is not willing to sacrifice his discreteness with HIS friends.
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PART 2 OUT SOON.
MsDazzler, at your disposal, sharing some tips that will ensure you maximize your experiences to the most satifiscation with a Tgirl, regardless of whether you are lookking to date or just hook up.
Complied from my own experiences, men's comments, other Tgirls' expeirences/comments, postings from this forum, and other reading materials, here I present them:
TIP #1: DON'T ASSUME ANYTHING ABOUT THIS SPECIFIC TGIRL YOU ARE MEETING OR DATING BASED ON YOUR PREVIOUS TGIRL, HEARSAY, OR PORNO
This might sound trite or rather obvious, but you'd be surprised at how many guys start the meeting or encounter with preset expectations/assumptions.
EXAMPLE: The most common assumption guys have with me is that since I look so passable and feminine, I must be on hormones, therefore the breasts they see on me must be real underneath the bra or the shirt. WRONG! This usually leads to a big disappointment for them when they tear my top off and get disappointed when my boobs don't fall out like expected.
EXAMPLE: Online, guys keep saying stuff over and over again like "I heard that trannies or tgirls (insert phrase here)" or "Is it true that TS (insert phrase here)" to me. Hearsay is not good evidence for you to base assumptions on.
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TIP #2: All Tgirls don't have pussies, therefore they must love anal sex because that s the only hole to go with, right? WRONG! My best Tgrrlfriend has complained about this because she hates anal sex and prefers oral sex, only, and frankly, this has led to friction and clashing with guys who assume that all tgirls must love getting fucked in the ass becuz they dont have pussies. So don't expect all Tgirls to like having anal sex.
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TIP #3: DON'T HOLD UP US ON A PEDESTAL, DON'T COMPARE US TO FAMOUS TRANNY STARS, OR TO GENETIC GIRLS.
Because you will always get disappointed. Tranny stars are paid to look glamorous, get plastic surgery, and be able to afford nice jugs. So don't go meeting a T-girl, expecting her to be like Gia Darling or Allanah Starr. There is only one Gia Darling, just like only one Allanah Starr, and that Tgirl you are meeting is the only one in the world. if you just meet a tgirl expecting a normal girl, you won't be as disappointed. Also don't assume she got the endurance of a tranny porn star. lol
This really bugs me, but it annoys me when guys compare me to genetic girls. Even though Tgirls may be eptiomes of the ideal woman or they want to be treated as women, not all of them are perfect. You cannot just beat years and years of male conditioning and indoctrination, and even bury it 100%. Flashes of "male" behavior or habits will surface, or some "male" characteristics may even not be eradicated.
EXAMPLE: I shower with a guy. Unwittingly I wrap the towel around my hips rather than my chest. He rags on me for not behaving like a woman in this case.
EXAMPLE #2: My tgrrlfriends, drunk, pee up standing in the alleys, just like guys. When you are drunk, you fall back on your old habits, and when you are drunk, you do things that require least thinking and effort, which standing up is. lol
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TIP #4: CONTINUING THE TIP FROM ABOVE, ALSO DON'T COMPARE THE TGIRL IN QUESTION'S BODY TO A GENETIC WOMAN. YOU WILL NOT BE HAPPY IN THE END, AND IT S POINTLESS AND WILL JUST DEAL A BLOW TO HER EGO.
EXAMPLE: When I was coming out of the bathroom all sexy in stockings, the guy on the couch commented, "You kinda have big shoulders." :shock: Totally inappropriate comment at a totally wrong moment.
you just have to face it, Tgirls were born in male bodies, with male characteristics. The sooner you accept that your dream Tgirl won't have fertile, hourglass hops, or may be very tall, the happier you ll be off.
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TIP #5: WATCH THE WAY THE TGIRL TOUCHES HER HAIR TO ASCERTAIN WHETHER IT IS A WIG OR NOT. (DON'T ASK)
You ll know whether to be careful when touching her hair during kissing or sex, so if it s a wig, you know not to knock her around or it may fall off, embarrassing her, or spoiling your perception of her. Because hair plays a huge role in feminizing the appearance, your perception may be quite ruined if the girl in question has shaved head. LOL
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TIP #6: NEVER SAY "I WISH YOU WERE A REAL GIRL" or "ONLY IF YOU WERE A GIRL..." (especially after sex!)
This is akin to saying to a girl, "I wish you were like Angelina Jolie" or a girl telling you, "I wish you were like Brad Pitt" after sex.
Those comments serve to do nothing but really belittle the person. There s no purpose on making those remarks to the Tgirl you r seeing or just fucked. You are playing by law and society's definition of a "girl", she is playing by her heart and mind's laws, which in her eyes she is a real girl.
The less you obsess on the fact that law (perhaps biology, too) deems her not to be a real girl, the happier and more satisifed you will be.
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TIP #7: JUST LIKE WOMEN, TGIRLS WILL EVENTUALLY WANT TO MEET YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY, if the relationship is progressing.
Of course it s understandable if you are nervous and don't want your close social circles finding out. We understand this totally. If you are not willin to do that, then you have to be willing to hang out with OUR FRIENDS.
What does this mean? This mean in exchange for maintaining your secrecy with your social circles (and we sacrifice the opporunity to bond with your friends just like genetic girls), YOU ACCEPT our friends since they will know about us and won't be discriminating. Therefore, since many Tgirls have gay friends and they run around in gay circles/bars/clubs, it is either hanging out with your straight friends and them finding out OR hanging out with our gay friends and being nonjudgmental and not whining about it and being uncomfortable.
You may think this is trite, but it is so true. Many guys have told me "but I dont like gay people", or "I am not gay, I am not going to hang out in gay bars". Well, sorry, honey, but my best friend is gay, and he has always been there for me, while guys come and go. I am not going to sacrifice my best friend to spend all of my time ALONE with the guy of the moment if he is not willing to sacrifice his discreteness with HIS friends.
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PART 2 OUT SOON.