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[Rockernyc]

Why is it that so many of these beautiful ladies are alone ?

Why are the non-creepy well adjusted men on here also by themselves ?

mitigating factors : ( girls)

being jaded

getting hurt one too many times

$$$/ work

unattainable perfection

(guys) ?

sexual confusion

fear

inability to focus on anything beyond an orgasm

actually this is a question about the true nature of love , what would it take for anyone of you to connect , what are you looking for ?

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[KaMiLeUnGuRl]

Im taken and very well happy. I mean with the flooding of trolls in a room and they way they act is how all men act usually. Most the men in chat rooms come in strictly for sex. The decent ones, well when they pm you its usually at a bad time, or even at a point where, Got any more pics can piss you off. Listen I really dont wanna give out all the hints in open forums cause theres guys here who are really trolls and will try anything to do as we say... might end up hurting another. Basically when my man seen me, he followed his heart cause he said he instantly fell in love. Dont believe me... 1) Jordan knew fom the day I met him, Here it is about 11 after i met him online 10 months we been together in person. This was the true Get together ive ever heard of. But anyways... As i was saying NOT ONCE did he ask for more pics, within time i offered. NOT ONCE DID HE ASK FOR A CAM! Does a cam really matter? AND IF YOU ASK FOR CAMS dont say CAN I SEE ALL OF YOUR or even worse I WISH I CAN SEE ALL OF YOU .... Beggars and High hope men dont look good.

Anyways Just a couple of tips...There are MANY MANY MORE to pass through before you know ;)

[Hugh Jarrod]

Seems like over simplification.

[Henny Roxx]

I look at it like this. there are so many ppl out there fucking it up for the world pretty much. SO trust plays a major part, once you've been scarred by a past relation then itz hard not to think what if this what if that. I dont know.

A long time ago i being told good things come to those who wait, im still waiting, lol.

[TrinityBlue]

Damn I wish that was true too...They say good things happen to good people BUT EVERY strung out crackead whore in my city gets a man and Im left alone on Friday night posting in here..lol... This is what I search for not perfection but perfect for me This is what I wish

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when
you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for
the guy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world
when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends,
Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about
you and how lucky
he is to have you. Wait for the one who turns to his
friends and says, "...that's her."


But Im realistic and I know in my heart of hearts 100% pure acceptance and love is not out there...Soo Im choosing to stay single till I go post op...Then im flyin the coop and going to find me a man somewhere where no one knows my name.....Ive made mistakes yes many many mistakes but Im hoping to just be able to let go of my past and transition well and find a well adjusted guy that likes real women...I dont blame all guys for my shitty relationships nor do I think Im unloveable...Ive just made some shitty choices with the wrong people is all...Ive escorted for 10 years and finally realized and man that respects me escprting dont really respect me at all...Sooo another reason I stay single for now..Im not bitter I dont hate men Im not obsessed with money...Im just doing my own damn thing in my own damn time...lol Ok thats all I have to say about THAT :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

[JohnnyPaycheck]

Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when
you hang up on him, who will stay awake just to watch you sleep. Wait for
the guy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world
when you are in your sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends,
Wait for the one who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares about
you and how lucky
he is to have you. Wait for the one who turns to his
friends and says, "...that's her."

wow, i was just in this situation for the last month or so, i was the guy you just described to this girl,, i was doing all those things to her, and she left me.

[edgeoflife]

Great story Kamiliengirl.

My Answer to rockernyc's question:

Why are the non-creepy well adjusted men on here also by themselves ?

Lets see, from past experience, I have hurt to many times and want to stop looking, but I dont. Also, from some women in the past I have met, his is what i usually would hear from them:

How much money you got? How big is your .. ahem .. ?
(thats last question is tru)

Then some just talk about sex, sure sex is great and can be wonderful; when you and that girl have a feeling of mutual right-ness about it.

So in repsonse to your question and your possibel suggested reasons:

"sexual confusion" - I dont have that. I know I am attracted to (ts) women and it feels right. Why shouldnt it?

"fear" - My only fear is dying someday.. an old alone guy.

"inability to focus on anything beyond an orgasm " - Again sex can come when feels right to and I dont focus on just an orgasm.

Connecting and looking for:

I look for the kind of girl that make a man happy to be alive, one that will respect and love hime, just as I would for her. A sense of humor on both ends helps and basically; honesty, trust and respect.

[MsDazzler]

I m still single because I am part-time, not full-time. Men have difficult time reconciling both of me in male/female mode. In boi mode, I m so drab and vanilla. In grrl mode, I am vibrant and gorgeous, which is the real me inside. Unfortunately, men can't cope with seeing me in male mode because it makes them uncomfortable.

So, the perfect guy for me NOW until I go full-time is the ONE who will love/accept me in boi mode AND understand that I can't go fulltime YET!

[Ecstatic]

Dazzler, I dig that. That's what I was saying (rather badly, probably) in the topic above: that it's the woman inside that really matters. I don't think you become a tgirl so much as gradually reveal or unfold the woman you are inside. If that's the case, then boi mode is just a transitional state, no?

[LySiStRaTa]

LOOK GURL I just read your post.... DONT EVER GIVE UP!!! TO SOME It comes quickly, to others a long time, look i aint saying i have the perfectest perfect relationship in the world, BUT I GOT THAT ONE YOU ARE DESCRIBING. I was part time from 2003 till november 2004 and my man knew i WANTED to go full time but still wasnt usre, Then when i made the move, i started a new life. Now were still together, He does everything Trinity described in her posting. And WOW, i guess i just dont know how lucky i actually am.... although he has his bad points too. BUT WE LOVE EACH OTHER AND ARE IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER. Girl dont do it for the man, Do it for yourself if and when you choose to go fulltime listen for hints and tips to make things better, and soon after that, YOULL SHINE,,, Wish i would have metcha in person :D

wow, i was just in this situation for the last month or so, i was the guy you just described to this girl,, i was doing all those things to her, and she left me.


rolls eyes,and i eat bacon and eggs for breakfast.look at you! since when would a tgirl wana let go of a guy that look as good as you in a relationship :? you should look back and think why?she left you :?

So, the perfect guy for me NOW until I go full-time is the ONE who will love/accept me in boi mode AND understand that I can't go fulltime YET!

and im sure youll find him miss,and those are the type that will never ever let you go...

[Gia Darling]

love that's is one of the hardest thing to find
you can have beauty and money and everything material in the world but if you don't have true love its worth less

sometimes it takes time to come along sometimes it does not come at all
so if you find it cherish it and nourish it but also be ok with being by yourself until you love and except yourself no one else will!

people often forget how much they wanted it when they did not have it that they stop giving value to it when they have it!

any whoo no more of my bitter jaded old woman talk! LOL

me and my fortune cookies thoughts

[JohnnyPaycheck]

wow, i was just in this situation for the last month or so, i was the guy you just described to this girl,, i was doing all those things to her, and she left me.


rolls eyes,and i eat bacon and eggs for breakfast.look at you! since when would a tgirl wana let go of a guy that look as good as you in a relationship :? you should look back and think why?she left you :?


well, she is a GG, and it is a bit more complicated than i had made it sound. I've been friends with this girl for years, before we started getting closer in the last few weeks, and she had just come out of a relationship with someone, and i was there for her,, thats how it happened, but i sort of got caught up in it, and she started sensing i was getting too serious and began to distance herself. But we got pretty close for a while, we slept together almost every night, i would hold her all night, but we never had sex, i just really care about her, and had fallen in love with her during that time. Im over it now, and we've managed to work things out so we're still as good friends as we were before. But i also think she is the type of girl that doesn't like guys to be as affectionate as i am, romantic type stuff.

,, by the way, your comment i eat bacon and eggs for breakfats reminded me of a funny dave Chappelle skit, the "zapped" skit when he and his crew are staging a fake bank robbery, and the person behind the desk says something like please don't hurt me i have a wife, and kids at home,, and he barks back.,"OH YEA?, WELL I EAT COTTAGE CHEESE FOR BREAKFAST,,, OK?,, WITH SALT AND PEPPA,,!!!!!"