What is the right thing to say?

[MsDazzler]

What s the right thing to say to "curious" bottoms or trans lovers who keep bringing up my "penis" in conversations, especially online? I just had a lengthy conversation with a 19 years old military guy online recently. He was all gung ho about hooking up with me and confessed he wanted to take it up the ass. I was like, "Um, no, you got the wrong grrl. I dont TOP." He kept harping on the subject until I had to become bitchy and went off on him. What s the right thing to say so they ll dropt he subject and realize that my "penis" is not going to be part of the equation if they ever want to bed or date me?

[slayerpsp]

what more can you say then what you did your bottom only i get it he needs to look for a top. its seems most men want to switch they may not admit it but the girls i have talked to say the guys want them to do them all the time i understand most ts are bottom only because you are woman not men but guys dont think that way they want it all

You pretty much just say no.

[Hugh Jarrod]

You pretty much just say no.

That's my quote, forgot to log in.

[Hugh Jarrod]

Those damned homo bottoms! LOL just kidding.

[Jordan]

Well girl, just tell him that your not into that kinda thing, But alot of men are with us and or attracted because of the cock, and usually want to be versatile, or bottoms anyways, so if thats not your preference then tell him.

girl use a big dildo on him and wack him up the bum really hard so he will never open wide toa tgirl ever again and be top as always

girl use a big dildo on him and wack him up the bum really hard so he will never open wide toa tgirl ever again and be top as always

? so all men should be tops? Hey if they want to bottm theres nothing wrong with. She's just not into that.

[Hugh Jarrod]

Of course to each their own, so say no. Then go looking for the top you want Dazzler.

you guys are missing my point. I already said NO, but he still wants to do it. So what s the next thing to say? I mean, I would like to hook up or date him but me being a bottom is a non-negotiable thing.

[MsDazzler]

oops that was me above. :)

[MsDazzler]

girl use a big dildo on him and wack him up the bum really hard so he will never open wide toa tgirl ever again and be top as always

LOL that is hiliarious good idea... maybe I should just do that. LOL

[Ucked Fup]

I would simply place something to the effect of "not interested in topping" or list what you enjoy and will not do in your chat profile. I'm of the belief that if someone starts up a personal conversation with you without checking out the profile and/or abiding by it - they deserve what ever rudeness coming to them.

I'm not sure if it's a protocol or not but I try to abide by it.

[edgeoflife]

Whatever ones preferance is, others should respect it.

[SexyLexi]

you guys are missing my point. I already said NO, but he still wants to do it. So what s the next thing to say? I mean, I would like to hook up or date him but me being a bottom is a non-negotiable thing.

Well I have come to realise things like this are vound to happen and yes it is quirw depressing to know that sex does play a huge part in our lives as mych as we say it doesnt. No offence but by the sounds of it with experoences I have had with guys it is gonna continue to be pushed ro the point you either do it or end up hating him cause he wont shut the fuck up about it. So if I were you I would take a pass on this boy. Just my own personal opppinion.

Lexi

so all men should be tops? Hey if they want to bottm theres nothing wrong with. She's just not into that.

well then stop calling youre selves str8 then since when did a str8 hetero man ever wanted to switch and take the womans position? a hetero man is all about masculinity theyre designed to be tops make babies lol put inside a hole they dont have those erogenous zone that you bi guys crave to be pumped they have prostate fair enough,but they dont have those desire to be pumped like you...its ur femmenine side that makes you want to bottom get it right,do you know why i know cause we tgirls like to be bottom,being a bottom is our way of feeling like a woman during intercourse with the opposite sex lol..get it right plzzzz

[MsDazzler]

so all men should be tops? Hey if they want to bottm theres nothing wrong with. She's just not into that.

well then stop calling youre selves str8 then since when did a str8 hetero man ever wanted to switch and take the womans position? a hetero man is all about masculinity theyre designed to be tops make babies lol put inside a hole they dont have those erogenous zone that you bi guys crave to be pumped they have prostate fair enough,but they dont have those desire to be pumped like you...its ur femmenine side that makes you want to bottom get it right,do you know why i know cause we tgirls like to be bottom,being a bottom is our way of feeling like a woman during intercourse with the opposite sex lol..get it right plzzzz

Yeah I agree with you... Being the bottom in a relationship validates our desire to be treated like a woman. When a guy asks to bottom with us, they r calling attention to the fact that we have a penis and we should use it. Assuming the traditional male position as a top in bed does nothing to reinforce our budding desire to transform in women. Why can't most men (especially trans lovers) recognize THIS?

That s one of the reasons I want a vagina, so the discussion is finally closed. There is utterly no room for discusson or debating top/bottom if I am sans a penis. Heh.

[Hugh Jarrod]

Dazzler you're beginning to sound more and more spiteful of men who bottom. I tend to disagree with you, and whoever the guest is that posted above. You still seem to want to narrow things to gay or straight (correct spelling BTW). If top = straight and bottom = gay, then I suppose versatile is = bi, even though these men aren't attracted to men. Trust me when I say I'll do sexually what it takes to please my girl (or gurl), please do not think if she wants to top this makes me fem gurl because that is the farthest from what I am. You sound like an NYC T. You know those Ts that are spiteful of men and continue to use the phrase tranny chaser every time they speak ill of them. I don't judge a bottom or a top in anyway. If they still equate themselves as being straight then that's what I'll call them. I've said all along we need a label for men who enjoy TGs anyway.

[Hugh Jarrod]

so all men should be tops? Hey if they want to bottm theres nothing wrong with. She's just not into that.

well then stop calling youre selves str8 then since when did a str8 hetero man ever wanted to switch and take the womans position? a hetero man is all about masculinity theyre designed to be tops make babies lol put inside a hole they dont have those erogenous zone that you bi guys crave to be pumped they have prostate fair enough,but they dont have those desire to be pumped like you...its ur femmenine side that makes you want to bottom get it right,do you know why i know cause we tgirls like to be bottom,being a bottom is our way of feeling like a woman during intercourse with the opposite sex lol..get it right plzzzz


NYC sweetie? I didn't say anything about me bottoming in that post, sorry you are as close minded as you are. If these men want to be called straight then that's what I'll call them. After all you gurls want to be called women and again I have no problem with that. Why are we still caught up on what they want to be called anyway we not only beat this horse to death I think the damned thing has been pounded to mush! If you had a handle I could go back and see a method to your posts, mine are simple if you want to go back and take a look at mine. Go ahead feel what ya like and go about feeling how you want (in your case by bottoming, to feel fem) don't rip and judge others. Because if a man where to give you oral pleasure wouldn't he be sucking a cock, that's soooooooooo gay in your mind isn't it?

[Arianna]

You know those Ts that are spiteful of men and continue to use the phrase tranny chaser every time they speak ill of them. I tend to think of a "tranny chaser" as a guy who comes across as awkward in their approach; the typical "kid in a candy store" who can't help but act weak and silly. I think of "admirers" as being the more self-confident, charming men who are secure with themselves. But I'm not labeling you as a "T-chaser", Hugh Jarrod. You don't seem to be in that "canine" category, like a few others on here. What's that one guy's name again? "Parched Pup"? ;)

i swear theres so many lies and "in denile"still going on in this forum,you guys are so good at making some bs

[Arianna]

i swear theres so many lies and "in denile"still going on in this forum,you guys are so good at making some bs

You're pretty good at hiding who you are, and making sweeping generalizations. Be specific.

[Hugh Jarrod]

i swear theres so many lies and "in denile"still going on in this forum,you guys are so good at making some bs

Denile of what? The fact that if they date TSs they are gay because you think so. Oh wait the bottoms only, they're the ones that are gay and in denile. So because you see something different than someone else, their words are BS. Now it's all so clear, why doesn't everyone just agree with you and see it your way? The world would be so much better that way wouldn't it?

[MsDazzler]

After many many online conversations since this thread, I have learned the best things to do in order to discourage an eager bottom-wannabe or hammer it through a guy's thick head that you don't want to top him..

1) you don't ever show him your pics of your "clit". EVER! Only shots of your ass. It'll reinforce your image as a bottom.

2) Ignore any references to your penis. Refuse to acknowledge questions like, "So have you ever fucked ass before?", "how big are you?", "can I suck you?", etc.... beyond the first question, "are you a top or bottom?" Pretty soon, the guy'll give up on the idea of you being the top.

3) Keep the conversation one-sided. Always make him out to be the top in any references or at any time. I once made the mistake of making the joke to this dude once that i would top him if he was being a bad boy, and he leapt all over that joke. In fact, tried to be a "bad boy". Lame!!!

[jenjen]

thats a great idea, but what about all the guys who simply are not honest about it? i hate it when a guy says he has no interest in anyone's penis other than his own, but when you finally get together, it's all he wants? Thats not denial, thats just plain lying to get sex.

[Texxx]

continue to be pushed ro the point you either do it or end up hating him cause he wont shut the fuck up about it.

Lexi

i see you met the girl i lost my virginity to!