Best way to tell your wife that you are a woman?

[felicia]

I know this is an old subject, a big drag (haha) but very relevant for a lot of us...once I just thought I'd leave a torn stocking around, or a photo of me as a lady, or have a t-friend call up and ask for me....it's a hard one, but has to be done...feli

[Arianna]

Ummm.... show her your breasts? ;)

I'd just tell her the truth. But I'm single and want a husband someday, so I can't totally relate to this situation.

[felicia]

thanks, I want a husband too!!!

[Jordan]

I find that "honesty" is always the best policy, it may hurt and of course shock etc but i'm sure in the end, it will be appreciated and your conscience will be guilt free and clear..

[Ucked Fup]

Honest is usually the best policy.

But it can be a really touchy subject if there are any children part of the relationship.

[Arianna]

Honest is usually the best policy.

But it can be a really touchy subject if there are any children part of the relationship.

What would be worse? If they get divorced, or if he starts leaving those clues around that he described? Bad enough if his wife found them, because that's not the right way to let her know, but what if the kids found his pics and pick up the phone when these people call him? That's gonna fuck them up worse. Dishonesty is always a bad choice. It's a shame that this marriage took place, if this is what the reality was. But better late than never. If this girl can't accept it, she still has the right to hear it directly from him.

[lisaparadise]

well well well where do i start.first of all at age 19 i went to the rippers and bumped into this beautifull stripper at the bar after i spilled my drink on my white shirt ,so she got a cloth from the bar and cleaned me up abit.we looked into each others eyes and knew we were meant for each other,she looks exactly like vanna white from wheel of fortune.so we talked for awhile and after the bar closed we went out for a coffee.this was on a friday night.sat night i went to see her she came back to my house stayed for the night and it was so awesome,omgthen sunday came along slept at my house and at 3 inthe moring i had such a bad bellyache i went to the hospital and my appendix burst.so i came hame after the op the next day and she moved in with me
stayed for 17 years.2 kids later and a divorce.now heres how it all went down,i told her i wanted to transition and she freaked,called me every nasty word you could think of.i told her i love you more than life itself and i always will love you till the day i die,but i cant live like this anymore,she wouldnt talk about it ever. so wwhen the day came that she fell inlove with a guy from her work she did the un thinkable.she went to my moms house where her my dad and about 6 or 7 of my sisters and broths were at the time and told them everything,why shes leaving me and how sick i was for wanting to transition,my mouth dropped and i could defend myself cause it was the truth not the way i would have liked my family to find out oh well.so we lived together after that for about a month and it was awefull,i knew life as id known it was coming to and end,i threw up about 10 times a day couldnt eat coudnt sleep.evertime i closed my eyes all i thought about was not being able to see my 2 kids grow up,the tears didnt stop flowing night after night,i begged her to stay i told her id put it on hold and do anything she wanted ,but it was over.she said i pushed her into the other mans arms because of whaat and who i was.the last night together i will never forget till the day i die,we stayed up till 5 am talking and for the most part i was begging her to give me a chance,i had a feeling she found someone else but wouldnt tell me ,finally that night she told me she fooled around with a guy at her work i held her tight in my arms and asked her do you love him,she said yes i do ,and i said with my heart broken voice,tears flowing from my eyes,if you love him go to him lifes too short to be unhappy babe,and she called him on the phone he picked her up 30 mins later and it was all over but the custody of the kids,to make a long story short we battled for the kids in court for a year and a half,finnallly she gave up and i won full custody of both my son age 10 and my daughter age 10 months at the time.6 years later i told my 2 kids its time for me to do what im meant to do be who i always was inside,they accepted it and here i am.and im not going anywhere.thanks for taking time to read lisaparadise

[Arianna]

Lisa,

That's a powerful story you shared. I'm proud of you that you were able to be honest because, in the end, it's yourself that you have to live with. My story in the "when did I know" thread is the tip of the iceberg in regards to what I've had to deal with over just wanting to be myself. My family has never been ok with me being who I am. I tried dating women when I was younger, but it never felt right. And when I was honest, there was never one that could accept it. Some tried but couldn't, and some were completely upset about it. They could even accept that I was attracted to men, more than they could that I was almost completely miserable being male. As for kids being involved, I think it's awesome that you could be honest and have a relationship with them. It's just a shame that your ex had to take it so badly. But in the end I think living a lie is much worse and more painful.

[lisaparadise]

thanks arianna,im not saying anything was easy infact quite the opposite,form age 5 i was into sports like no other,i was captain of ever sport i played from hockey to having scouts inmy home wanting to draft me into the nhl to baseball where i played at the highest level here in canada.aat age 17 i moved to bc where i went to model as a boy for sears and other mags.i was the ultamate boytoy,always dated the most beautifull girls.my life was a fantasy thsat all my friends wanted to live,from a family of 10 brothers and sisters i had the best childhood anyone could ever have,the closeness we had and still have is amazing.we were all best friends growing up and still are.i was the last person inthe world you would think that wanted to become a girl.but i knew at an early age there was something wrong with the way i thought about things.and now after all this time waiting for my kids to grow up and understand who i am everything has came together.i wouldnt change anything about my life,if i could ever have the chance to live it all again id jump at it in a heartbeat.i am aafter all these years of turmoil spinning inmy heart at peace with who i am and where i came from,i have no clue on where im going but i cant wait till i find out,lifes a journey,not a destination,

[Arianna]

i wouldnt change anything about my life,if i could ever have the chance to live it all again id jump at it in a heartbeat.i am aafter all these years of turmoil spinning inmy heart at peace with who i am and where i came from,i have no clue on where im going but i cant wait till i find out,lifes a journey,not a destination,

I feel the same way. You put it beautifully.

[Ecstatic]

Lisa, thank you for sharing your story in such detail. What an amazing story. I remember you sharing part of this at TGPixel, and I was touched by it then, and I am again now.

[felicia]

I know it is very cruel but wondering if any girls had fantasies like mine, where I am at a bar with my wife and a gorgeous hunky black man picks up my flirtatious looks, comes over from behind and sweeps me up in a five minute kiss in front of my wife -- it is all over after that, no need to say anymore, she runs off in a cab and I run off to live with that MAN!

[Arianna]

I know it is very cruel but wondering if any girls had fantasies like mine, where I am at a bar with my wife and a gorgeous hunky black man picks up my flirtatious looks, comes over from behind and sweeps me up in a five minute kiss in front of my wife -- it is all over after that, no need to say anymore, she runs off in a cab and I run off to live with that MAN!

Most, if not all, of us are not married to women. "Felecia", I am getting the feeling that this is ALL just fantasizing, and you're merely a closet crossdresser playing TS here. Sounds like you read too much TG fiction, and are kinda confused. :roll: Take out the tampon, "girl", and smell the coffee. :wink:

[lisaparadise]

thanks ectatic we all have a story to tell,i just find that im not shy to speak the truth no matter how critical one can be.the most important thing you will know about me as all my friends know i am always trying to help others and teach life lessons to the ones who r either less fortunate than i or whom i just wanna see make it in a world full of opinions and jelousy.i dont have a jelous bone in my body nor do i have all the answers,but when it comes to being real and helping others i dont think you ll find anyone more caring amd sincere than i

[Arianna]

thanks ectatic we all have a story to tell,i just find that im not shy to speak the truth no matter how critical one can be.the most important thing you will know about me as all my friends know i am always trying to help others and teach life lessons to the ones who r either less fortunate than i or whom i just wanna see make it in a world full of opinions and jelousy.i dont have a jelous bone in my body nor do i have all the answers,but when it comes to being real and helping others i dont think you ll find anyone more caring amd sincere than i

Again, Lisa, you have my sincere respect. ~ Big HUG! ~

[wmlover4u]

thanks ectatic we all have a story to tell,i just find that im not shy to speak the truth no matter how critical one can be.the most important thing you will know about me as all my friends know i am always trying to help others and teach life lessons to the ones who r either less fortunate than i or whom i just wanna see make it in a world full of opinions and jelousy.i dont have a jelous bone in my body nor do i have all the answers,but when it comes to being real and helping others i dont think you ll find anyone more caring amd sincere than i

Thank you for sharing your story. Hopefully it will help others realize that they too can do what they need to do to be honest with themselves. I'm proud to say that I am a fellow Canadian (now relocated to the South). Also, you are a beautiful woman.

XOXO

[Jordan]

Most, if not all, of us are not married to women. "Felecia", I am getting the feeling that this is ALL just fantasizing, and you're merely a closet crossdresser playing TS here. Sounds like you read too much TG fiction, and are kinda confused. Take out the tampon, "girl", and smell the coffee.

Couldn't have said it better myself arianna, i got the feeling that these threads are a "mockery" of how we lead and live our lives, The "tampon" thread truly takes the cake lol i mean wtf?...everyone is getting personal and sharing then the starter of the thread comes back with a fantasy scenario, i mean enough is enough, no offense felicia, but it's a little off putting, to me anyways..

[KaMiLeUnGuRl]

Rollin again Once again a twisted fantasy this one brings hahaha OMG i dont know what to say i mean this whole life is twisted :)) Definitely a tranny chaser haha

[Harajuku Tgirl]

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[Arianna]

Most, if not all, of us are not married to women. "Felecia", I am getting the feeling that this is ALL just fantasizing, and you're merely a closet crossdresser playing TS here. Sounds like you read too much TG fiction, and are kinda confused. Take out the tampon, "girl", and smell the coffee.

Couldn't have said it better myself arianna, i got the feeling that these threads are a "mockery" of how we lead and live our lives, The "tampon" thread truly takes the cake lol i mean wtf?...everyone is getting personal and sharing then the starter of the thread comes back with a fantasy scenario, i mean enough is enough, no offense felicia, but it's a little off putting, to me anyways..

OMFG! :shock: I cannot believe people fell for such idiotic thread and question. No offense Felicia. But while we are TS and living lives as women. Comeon now. LOL. This is completely preposterous.. How do one tell his wife he is in fact a woman? Well first of all, Id assume by that question I take it that youre married to one? LOL. In that case youre not at all a woMAN but a man with dellusions of being a woman. Latent convert I say. Or maybe just a confused soul. Bless you child. :wink: LOL. Even tho I know youre way much older than me. You should have more keen understanding and grasp of things. Thats all Im trying to say.

This whole post and the threads.. your posting is a complete SHAM and is a mockery to living TS'es worldwide. What were you thinking RE: Tampon's? Lmao. Sweety, Get on with the program and pick a gender/persona..Are you a man or a TS? Then and pursue it with passion sweety. Life is too short to be spent day dreaming.

~Kisses.

HTG

I gotta be honest. I've had Felecia pegged all along. But the "isn't obvious what I am?" question was just too temping. I did get alot of laughs tho'. Actually all of our answers serve as an education in the REALITY of OUR lives vs. the fantasies if a closet sissy with tampons up their ass. :lol:

All along I've been picturing someone that looks like Chris Farley in a tu-tu with a string hanging out it's butt and reeking of body odor. But that might be an insult to poor Chris. :lol:

[KaMiLeUnGuRl]

If you actually think about it.... You dont tell your WIFE if your married already.... THAT YOUR A TRANSEXUAL......Usually i get 99% of them in my y! Msngr that they are CDs lol. Lol im sure if your already a transexual the answer of SHOWING her your tits was a pretty good one :)

Oh well another one bites the dust haha

just tell her felicia, that you're a bisexual tgirl